relations

[hyke]

In an of-line autistic group I belong to someone wondered if aspies were more likely to get involved with borderliners. His former wife was a borderliner. His mum was a borderliner, his dad, like him, an aspie. And he had seen the combination in other relations too.

I found his question interesting. Autistics I know in a relation, often have a relation with some-one 'off-normal'. But I don't know about figures or 'winning combinations.'

When I look back, I fell for the 'off-normal' types. Have been married with a spectrumite. And am in a relation with a spectrumite now.

A friend, probably on the spectrum, married a woman with severe DISS. A former collegue, diagnosed in the same time as me, was in a relation with a very depressed woman. I know a bipolar woman, her husband thinks he is on the spectrum. It would not amaze me if he is.

And then there are people I know that are in a relation with someone 'excentric'.

Does anyone have figures about this, or can you relate to this. I was amazed that for the man in the group it was so specific about borderline.

We'll be meeting somewhere this month again. And I think this will be one of the topics we'll talk about.

[Supersusie]

In an of-line autistic group I belong to someone wondered if aspies were more likely to get involved with borderliners. His former wife was a borderliner. His mum was a borderliner, his dad, like him, an aspie. And he had seen the combination in other relations too.

I found his question interesting. Autistics I know in a relation, often have a relation with some-one 'off-normal'. But I don't know about figures or 'winning combinations.'

When I look back, I fell for the 'off-normal' types. Have been married with a spectrumite. And am in a relation with a spectrumite now.

A friend, probably on the spectrum, married a woman with severe DISS. A former collegue, diagnosed in the same time as me, was in a relation with a very depressed woman. I know a bipolar woman, her husband thinks he is on the spectrum. It would not amaze me if he is.

And then there are people I know that are in a relation with someone 'excentric'.

Does anyone have figures about this, or can you relate to this. I was amazed that for the man in the group it was so specific about borderline.

We'll be meeting somewhere this month again. And I think this will be one of the topics we'll talk about.

I don't know what we are talking about here? and I not on the spectrum

[Tigger_the_Wing]

I don't know what we are talking about here? and I not on the spectrum

Well, I would be most surprised if you did know what Hyke was talking about - and you are definitely eccentric!

[Stefano]

I don't know about the statistics, but I'm in a relationship with someone bipolar/OCD/very eccentric. She is not borderline, as she is a social intuitive.

I have always been most attracted to "quirky" or "eccentric" types (if these are indeed not the same thing), as I find them to be the most interesting people.

[hyke]

I don't know about the statistics, but I'm in a relationship with someone bipolar/OCD/very eccentric. She is not borderline, as she is a social intuitive.

I have always been most attracted to "quirky" or "eccentric" types (if these are indeed not the same thing), as I find them to be the most interesting people.

I can relate to that. Maybe that also has to do with the fact that someone eccentric shares the not belonging to mainstreem. That is a good basis for mutual understanding. Knowing both that you do not fit in. And that it will take energy to communicate and connect.
With people I became friends with it was the same. Not fitting in in mainstream.

[pandora]

It wouldn't surprise me if my ex were on the spectrum somewhere. Mind you, he and my younger daughter are in deep denial that any of us have any traits. His idea is that I talk myself into "being autistic" and I use the difficulties to get out of doing things I don't want to do. I don't see why I would talk myself into being autistic so that idea seems a bit ill-informed.

It's funny that he often says I am one of the most panic-ridden people ever but he generally sees the worst scenario in any situation and if there is an easy or a hard way to things he will do it the hard way and say anybody who wishes to do it the easy way is lazy.

I seriously doubt I could make a success of a relationship with somebody OCD or with uncontrolled Bipolar because in the first instance, it would drive me barmy and in the second, it would be hard to cope with a person with constantly changing moods because of the need for some stability and predictability in how other people interact with me. But if the other person were simply a bit eccentric, that would be all to the good.